Advice please.

[Col. Psycho]

Right, how does one go about repairing a friendship with a female friend who has decided to not talk to you anymore...? Should i cut my losses and never speak to her again or do i go out of my way to rebuild the friendship? The reason i ask is because we used to be close and all of a sudden that changed a lot after a whole group of us went on holiday and i got into a few serious fights with her. Now i dont want to lose the friendship, but is sticking my neck out to fix it going to be worth my time, or is it pretty much pointless because once a member of the female species outcasts you from her friendship list its over?

your thoughts and opinions please. (and advice on the matter, of course.)

thanks.

[killerfluffy]

If you were legitimately in the wrong, apologize for it. Otherwise, just wait for her to come around.

[marty]

Any friendship is worth repairing -- it shouldn't matter if it's a girl (unless it's not a sincere friendship on your part -- where you stick around because you want to bone her)

If that happened to me, I'd knock on her door (email and phone can be deleted or hung up) and say "I'm sorry we got to this point. I want to fix things."

That's all I'd actually plan to say, and I'd bank on being able to go off spontaneously from there.

[Col. Psycho]

Any friendship is worth repairing -- it shouldn't matter if it's a girl (unless it's not a sincere friendship on your part -- where you stick around because you want to bone her)

If that happened to me, I'd knock on her door (email and phone can be deleted or hung up) and say "I'm sorry we got to this point. I want to fix things."

That's all I'd actually plan to say, and I'd bank on being able to go off spontaneously from there.

Both of us said things that were rather nasty. i dont know if she ment what she said, but i know i didnt mean what i said. I apologised, and on the day before i left south africa to come back to england, i went up to her, and said im really sorry our friendship fucked out towards the end of my stay there, and i hope there is no bad blood between us. i then said sorry and walked away. her friend who was there said "yeah whatever see you later" and that was that.

it might seem pointless repairing a friendship thats in another country, but I aim to go back there and visit my mates, and i'd still like to be friends with her because she's awesome to hang out with. and she might come over to england and i'd like to keep contact and hang out again.

its frustrating. I tried to send an email like a month ago, she didnt respond. a week ago I sent a good luck for university message, asking how she was and she mustnt worry about going to uni it'll be a cool experience, and she didnt respond. :| gg.

[killerfluffy]

How long has this row been going on for?

[Col. Psycho]

on and off since i'd say late november early december last year. i fucked up originally because i caused some shit, then i patched it up and we were good friends, to the point where she claimed i was her best guy friend. but i noticed in the backround there was something not so good in her eyes, and yeah, her attitude followed and it slowly deteriorated into this. i dont know wtf to do. :|

[marty]

Oh, that

If you're serious about mending that friendship, you should probably forget about her for at least 6 months before trying anything again. It's a good cool-off period for both of you. It's probably enough time that she won't be as mad when you try to talk to her or you won't care about the friendship anymore that you don't feel like trying.

[Col. Psycho]

Oh, that

If you're serious about mending that friendship, you should probably forget about her for at least 6 months before trying anything again. It's a good cool-off period for both of you. It's probably enough time that she won't be as mad when you try to talk to her or you won't care about the friendship anymore that you don't feel like trying.

yeah thats what i was thinking originally. thanks for your advice dudes. :) plus rep.

[Apathy]

You lie sir, she was never your friend. As such, there is nothing in need of repair.

Supporting Materials: The Ladder Theory (http://www.intellectualwhores.com/masterladder.html)

[Col. Psycho]

You lie sir, she was never your friend. As such, there is nothing in need of repair.

Supporting Materials: The Ladder Theory (http://www.intellectualwhores.com/masterladder.html)

Kind sir, i am very well studied in the art of the Ladder Theory. Yes, i fell under the category of cuddle bitch, but i wasnt complaining, and at the time being, thats where i wanted to be.

D:

i'll leave it for around 6 months and then one day i'll out of the blue send a message and be like "hey, whats up. long time no speak" and I'll see if she responds.

[maggie]

Never try to make up with a female when she has support staff.
The dismissive friend is a killer.

[pk!]

My advice - sleep with all her friends and tell other men what a terrible lay she was

[ScAvenger001]

pk! :|

[Noirceur]

You lie sir, she was never your friend. As such, there is nothing in need of repair.

Supporting Materials: The Ladder Theory (http://www.intellectualwhores.com/masterladder.html)
God, not the ladder theory.

[pk!]

Sorry Scav.

My real advice is just be a nice bloke and she'll notice and come over. At this point you arrange a lunch date to smooth things over.

[Daywalker]

I had a girl do that to me when she got an abusive boyfreind, I said fuck her and moved on

[rovens]

Sorry Scav.

My real advice is just be a nice bloke and she'll notice and come over. At this point you arrange a lunch date to smooth things over.

Isn't he in the UK and she in SA?

[BlindSite]

Women suck at these things. They get all pissy, run away for a while then come around.

Just recently I repaired a friendship like your situation. The best thing you can do is lay it all out, here's why I did this, here's why I'm sorry, can we just be friends. Then wait a couple of days, send them an e-mail or text message saying you miss them or something then call them a day or so after that.