Distance

[BattleWhack]

I know this is really unlike me, asking for help with chicks because I'm such a stud, I know, it hurts.

In any case, how far is considered long distance these days? The girl I spent the night with in Houston is soon moving up to Virginia Beach, which is only like 3 hours away. Thinking about dating her.

3 hours, long distance, or just far enough away to not get sick of her?

[rovens]

Far enough to go and see her when you want, not so close that she can get really clingy or stalk you.

Also not close enough to find out if you should happen to get drunk and take part in a threesome with 2 hot sisters (well you never know).

[ScAvenger001]

3 hours one way or three hours both ways?

[BattleWhack]

3 hours one way. Basically, only see her on weekends, which I'm totally cool with. I hate clingy women. She's a pretty cool chick, so I'm not too worried about it, just curious.

[Noirceur]

I know this is really unlike me, asking for help with chicks because I'm such a stud, I know, it hurts.

In any case, how far is considered long distance these days? The girl I spent the night with in Houston is soon moving up to Virginia Beach, which is only like 3 hours away. Thinking about dating her.

3 hours, long distance, or just far enough away to not get sick of her?
Long distance is a completely relative term. A long distance relationship is usually a relationship in which the two parties don't get to see each other often. It depends on how often you see yourself going there to visit.

[BattleWhack]

Well long distance for me, is like, so long you don't hardly ever see each other, and humans being humans, and humans liking to fuck, the chances of cheating on one another are multiplied ten-fold.

[Chunkywheats]

Is this meant to be an "exclusive" dating relationship, because if so, it will never work. There will be too much desire to flirt w/ other people, and young relationships are tender and need love.

But if you just want to hang out on weekends and fuck, then yeah, it will probably be a great experience, in that, you get to treat her awesome for 2 days and ignore her for the rest, so she never has time to start not liking you. And plus you could still fuck around (but so could she)

[Noirceur]

Agreed, generally serious relationships don't thrive in these situations, but open relationships will.

[BattleWhack]

Yeah, I'm not getting serious with anyone for a long time, no worried there. Hell, I'm still trying to get un-married. So, yeah.

[Gopats]

Since you are able to visit her weekly I wouldn't consider it a long-distance relationship

[SWATJester_os]

if you could see them every weekend, that's mid distance.

[Noirceur]

Yeah, I'm not getting serious with anyone for a long time, no worried there. Hell, I'm still trying to get un-married. So, yeah.
Then you're all set as far as I can tell.

[nojmaster]

Agreed, generally serious relationships don't thrive in these situations, but open relationships will.

I will present the opposite opinion.

Me and my girlfriend both went to university last September. I went to Carlisle, she went to Bristol. They're 300 miles apart; 5 hour journey by car or train. We were going out steady from March last year and are still very much together and exclusive. I've been utterly faithful and I trust her to the point that I believe completely that she's been faithful. We see each other every other weekend (can't do more frequently than that due to the cost of travel and having to leave time to do uni work) and it works as well as it can, being so far apart. However, I'd say being as we'd been pretty serious before moving apart (we both met and lived in London at the time), instead of starting the relationship as a long distance thing that it's a different situation from BW's conundrum. The point, either way, is that long distance relationships can work. However, I feel the reason mine works is because I love her deeply. If I didn't, I'm not sure I'd be bothered to deal with it.

[Glock23]

Starting long distance is a pain in the ass.

Long distance in the middle of a relationship could probably endure, as long as you're both willing to make sacrifices.

[OMFG it g00]

well slong s you see her every once and awhile youll be alright,
I had a long distance relationship, but it was 6 hours and we could onyl see each other like once a month
that sucked....but 3 hours every other wknd should work pretty well!
good luck

[Psyche]

if you like the chick it's worth it weekends aren't so bad. imo the best relationships are when you communicate often but only actually see each other 2 or 3 times a week. if you see each other every day you'll end up at each others throat.

[Noirceur]

I will present the opposite opinion.

Me and my girlfriend both went to university last September. I went to Carlisle, she went to Bristol. They're 300 miles apart; 5 hour journey by car or train. We were going out steady from March last year and are still very much together and exclusive. I've been utterly faithful and I trust her to the point that I believe completely that she's been faithful. We see each other every other weekend (can't do more frequently than that due to the cost of travel and having to leave time to do uni work) and it works as well as it can, being so far apart. However, I'd say being as we'd been pretty serious before moving apart (we both met and lived in London at the time), instead of starting the relationship as a long distance thing that it's a different situation from BW's conundrum. The point, either way, is that long distance relationships can work. However, I feel the reason mine works is because I love her deeply. If I didn't, I'm not sure I'd be bothered to deal with it.
That's why I said generally. Yours may work but you can't deny that the majority don't.

[Captain Colon]

Starting long distance is a pain in the ass.

Long distance in the middle of a relationship could probably endure, as long as you're both willing to make sacrifices.
It can work out fine when she's not a BITCH :arr: d:D

I would consider "long-distance" to be long enough that it precludes the possibility of even weekly visits due to cost or whatever. If someone lives an hour away but you really can't afford to drive that far or don't have a car or are crippled or whatever, it's long distance.